Overcoming Social Anxiety — How to Come Out of Your Shell

Want to be successful with women? You’re going to need to overcome social anxiety. How do you go about overcoming social anxiety? You need to learn how to come out of your shell. How do you do that?

Read this article and we’ll tell you everything that you need to know about conquering social anxiety and becoming the type of confident, high-value man who gets the girl.

Overcoming Social Anxiety, Step 1: Accept That It’s Not Easy

How to come out of your shell is never going to be easy. You need to accept that overcoming social anxiety is a process that is sometimes going to be difficult for you. Once you man up to that fact, you’re going to be able to face the hardest parts of destroying your social anxiety and becoming the type of high-value, confident man that you’ve always wanted to be.

Overcoming Social Anxiety, Step 2: Budget Your Time

Don’t use a machine gun approach to overcoming social anxiety. Instead, budget your time. Your career and work come first. After that, it’s your passions, your hobbies, your personal interests. Then, with what time is left over after that, you have time to socialize.

You might find socializing and overcoming social anxiety intimidating. However, when you see how little time you’re actually going to have for it, it can seem a lot less manageable. This will make coming out of your shell seem a lot easier and more simple.

Overcoming Social Anxiety, Step 3: Simple Hacks to Gain or Feign Confidence

You might be surprised to hear that confidence isn’t just something you’re born with. It’s something you can develop. Something that any man can start growing if he just starts putting the effort in the right places. Here are some really simple things that you can start doing right now to overcome social anxiety, come out of your shell and start gaining confidence:

  • Good Posture: It will make you feel more confident and look more confident.
  • Smile: Smiling with your whole face projects confidence, as well as making you feel better about yourself.
  • Mayor Walk: Walk around the bar like you own the place. Clink glasses. Give high fives.
  • Copy Walk: Pick a masculine dude that you admire a lot, like George Clooney, Steve McQueen, Humphrey Bogart, or whoever and copy their walk.

Try these out and see if they don’t slowly, over time start making you feel more confident. We guarantee that if you utilize them, you’ll start making noticeable progress toward understanding how to come out of your shell.

Overcoming Social Anxiety, Step 4: Making Failure Your Ally

When you’re trying to overcome social anxiety, you need to learn how to make failure your ally. Put simply, you’re going to get rejected from time to time. You might even get rejected in ways that make you uncomfortable or hurt a little. The thing to realize is that this is a normal part of coming out of your shell. As long as you learn what to do and what not to do the next time that you approach a woman, there’s no such thing as “failure.”

Overcoming Social Anxiety, Step 5: Get Out There and Do It

There’s no substitute for getting out there and doing it. Make it a point to talk to and approach a certain number of women every night every time that you go out. Make the goal attainable, but also one that helps you to stretch out a little, to test your own boundaries.

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AJ Harbinger - author of 1052 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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