One question we get frequently is, “How do I become a better listener?” Listening is an important social skill we need if we want to really connect with other people. Most people know listening is important, but a lot of us (especially those of us with a little social anxiety) end up in our heads, over-thinking things. The problem is … Read More

You understand hosting a fabulous event is a great way to network and build social capital. That’s a given. But how do you get started when you don’t have an actual clue where to begin? The art of hosting a fabulous event that builds your social circle and your personal reputation as an all-around cool guy or gal is easier … Read More

Spoiler Alert: Dealing with social anxiety is not a “one and done” kind of deal. And that’s good news, because the only way you could realistically remove all social anxiety would be to die. So how about a better plan? It’s a good news, bad news situation. You want the bad news first? Okay, here it is: If you have … Read More

You’re out and about, being social, and wanting to behave like the high-value person you are. It sounds like it should be pretty straightforward: be a high-value person, and you’ll automatically offer value to others. But things are never that simple, are they? Try too hard and you become that needy person who practically repels others. Don’t leave people feeling … Read More

Making great first impressions requires more than just a confident attitude and witty dialogue — it’s all about your body language. In the heat of the moment, it can be easy to forget about all the little tweaks and adjustments you can make to improve the signals you give off. When it comes to body language, it really is the … Read More

We deal with it at work, at home, at the grocery store… conflict is an inevitable part of life, and knowing how to handle it (and, more important, handle it well) is a hallmark of a high-value person. Here, we present our ultimate guide to high value conflict resolution. How to Resolve Conflict without Getting Your Hands Dirty Conflict resolution … Read More

Growing and developing our social skills as we strive to relate to others is made all the more difficult by our own self-criticism. End the reflection brutality with these four strategies. If you’re like most people, you can be pretty harshly critical of yourself — especially in social situations. If you read enough personal development and self-improvement books, it can … Read More

Every time we’re out, we stick to the Art of Charm conversation formula. It works whether you’re trying to start a conversation or resuscitate one that’s flatlining. When you run out of things to say, there’s that awkward lull. Before you know it, you’re freaking out. This formula will show you how to start a conversation with anyone. So you’re … Read More

People are hardwired to judge a lot about you based on their first impression. Here’s how to enter a room in a way that will make people take notice. [Photo of John Barrowman making a grand entrance at San Diego Comic-Con by Ewen Roberts] If you’re anything like most folks, putting yourself out there can feel risky and intense. In … Read More