What’s the key to charm up women? Is it good looks? Is it money? Is it a killer job? None of these things hurt, but you don’t need them. Charming women can be done through a series of simple, straightforward processes that increase your social skills. What’s more, these skills are something that every man can learn how to do.
First Impressions Matter
It’s important to always project confidence in social situations — even when you aren’t. Remember that a woman’s first impression of you is formed when she first sees you, not the other way around. A simple way to project confidence is to stand up straight, but relaxed, and have a big smile on your face. Remember to smile with your whole face, not just your mouth. Crinkle the corners of your eyes and raise your cheeks up. Best of all, if you aren’t confident, acting like you are will slowly make you more confident over time.
Approach Immediately
A lot of men trying to charm up women wonder if she saw them checking her out. She did. That’s why it’s important for you to approach immediately. It shows a confidence that most men have and confidence is king when it comes to charming women. If you’re looking for a simple way to set yourself apart from the pack, start by approaching immediately. It might be difficult at first, but the more you do it, the easier it’s going to get.
Get Her to Laugh
Read any women’s magazine survey: They love men who make them laugh. Why is this? Because laughter and humor relax people. It makes them feel more comfortable. It defuses tension. In a social setting, which is naturally stressful, laughter can cut through anxiety and get her more relaxed around you. Compare this to the more common approach of asking a woman lots of personal, albeit innocuous, questions about what she does, where she lives and if she’s having a good time. The guys who succeed the most with women are often the ones who can make them laugh. Start you conversations with light, playful banter and get all your interactions going on the right foot.
Let Her Know You’re Interested
After you’ve gotten her to laugh a bit and relax, it’s time to let her know that you’re interested. This is a masterful move. Granted, she already knows that you’re interested; That’s why you started talking to her. But explicitly letting her know that you’re interested you’re providing her with validation, allowing her to relax even more and basically making her feel great about herself. Don’t think that she won’t remember you as the guy who did all that simply by saying “You seem pretty cool” or “I dig you.”
Connect With Her Emotionally
If women love guys who can make them laugh, they hate guys who aren’t good at listening. Fully commit to your interaction by listening to what she has to say. Then connect with her by taking the emotional core of what she said — what she’s really saying — acknowledge it and then find something to say that relates back to it. This is the art of compelling conversation. She’s going to notice that you were the guy who really seemed to “get” her, right before you get her digits.
