The girl next door. It has a different meaning when you’re all grown up and living on your own. Still, you might find that you’ve met a girl next door (or down the hall as the case may be) that you want to pursue something with. There are risks there, but the rewards might outweigh that. If you decide that you want to pursue something, The Art of Charm is in your corner to help you make it happen.
Is It Worth It?
This is a question that, frankly, we can’t answer for you; but it’s a question that you need to ask yourself. “Is it worth it?” You have to answer this question before asking how to start dating a girl next door. Remember that if things go badly you might be living next door to a very awkward situation. It doesn’t matter whose fault it is. It’s a problem, much like a sour workplace romance, except this time you might have to move.
However, on the other hand, you wouldn’t be the first guy to make a serious and meaningful connection with a neighbor. Here’s how to make that connection.
Flirting With a Neighbor
Flirting with a neighbor can be easy. After all, the two of you are going to come in contact with each other in a number of settings that naturally lend themselves to chatting and bantering. You can make her laugh and make her smile, engage in more challenging flirtation and move things into a more overtly sexual realm. You might be uncomfortable doing this because she’s your neighbor, but here’s the thing: If you start with funny and playful, by the time you escalate to something more sexual, you two are already going to have established a rapport.
Getting to Know Your Neighbor
Of course, you’re also going to want to get to know her a little more before you ask her out on a date. Asking her about her day can provide an entree into further conversation about who she is, where she came from and what brought her to her current place in life. You can then begin establishing a connection by relating back to her the core of her story (“Sounds like the small town you grew up in was pretty awesome” or whatever), then giving your own spin on it (“I grew up in a different big city but moved here because…”)
This is how you begin to establish a connection. But how do you get the date?
Fortune Favors the Bold
You have no idea how many guys we’ve encountered who met a great girl next door, established a rapport with her, then got upset when she started dating another guy. Their mistake? They never bothered to ask her out. If you don’t go for the date, you’ll almost certainly not get the date.
At The Art of Charm, we don’t want you to “ask” for a date. Instead, we want you to just tell her that you want to get together some time. Suggest an activity of mutual interest, or maybe just heading down to the local bar to grab a drink. If she says no at first, don’t be afraid to ask again. She might be busy, or she might be interested in you, but not the date idea. That’s the key of knowing how to start dating a girl (even the one next door).
