There’s no two ways about it: Getting over a break up takes time. How much time? That depends on how you go about it. As with anything else, there’s a right way and a wrong way to do this. While you can’t rush your way out of it, you can make it easier on yourself by doing a few simple things.
Create Space For Yourself
Creating space for yourself when you’re getting over a break up is probably the most important thing. This means that you can’t be her shoulder to cry on. The two of you shouldn’t be talking much, if at all. Don’t lurk around her social media accounts to see what she’s up to.
You need to take this time after a break up and create some space for yourself. For the last period of your life, you haven’t been at the center. Now it’s time to place yourself at the center of your own life again.
Use Your Time Wisely
One thing about not being at the center of your own life? It means that you spend a lot of time on other people. Now that you two are broken up, you have all that time freed up for just one person: You.
Whether this means throwing yourself into work, hitting the gym more regularly, taking classes or finding other ways to improve yourself is up to you. You should, however, take some time to improve yourself. Not only will it help you when you’re getting over a break up, it will also make you a better person. Win-win.
Here’s what we advise: Your put your career first. Throw yourself into it as a way to power through all the negative feelings you’re having. Hit the gym after work a few times a week for the same reason. Spend some time on your passions and hobbies, particularly the ones that help you to grow as a person. Only after you’ve made time for all of that stuff will you have time for the next step.
Start Building a Social Sales Funnel
What to do when you have time to come up for air and start building a social life again? You need a social sales funnel. Here’s how it works:
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Go Out: Two or three times a week go out and do something. It could be going to a bar or a club. It could be participating in some kind of an activity. It doesn’t matter what you do as long as you’re meeting new people — male and female.
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Hold a Gathering: One or two times a month, throw your own event. This can be a cocktail or dinner party at your place or any other kind of gathering that lets people be social with each other. Tell everyone to bring their friends.
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Go on Dates: Once or twice a week, go on dates with the women you have the best connection with.
Getting over a break up isn’t easy, but you can make it easier. The Art of Charm is always here to help you through the hardest times in your life.
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