For a woman to fall in love with you she first has to find you attractive. That doesn’t necessarily mean you have to be physically attractive, because attraction for women involves a lot more than just looks. There are much more important qualities women are looking for, and whether you want to make a woman fall in love with you or just sleep with you for a night, you’re going to have to show that you have those qualities.
Most guys think attraction is all about looks. It makes sense because looks are a major part of what most guys want in a woman. If a guy isn’t attracted to the way a woman looks, it’s often hard for him to become interested in that girl.
This might sound shallow, but it’s there for a reason. Men are evolutionarily hardwired to look for women that could give birth to a healthy child to pass his genes along. This is why men typically go for young, fit girls with healthy skin, large breasts, and curvy hips (a.k.a a great ass).
Women are also looking for healthy men, but there are a lot of other factors that are just as important – if not more so. If you look back throughout human evolution, it’s been the man’s job to provide and protect both the woman and the offspring. Since humans are social creatures, this means it’s not just muscle that shows a man can take care of his woman.
Traits like confidence, humor, and social intelligence (someone who in the early years of humanity would be accepted by ‘the tribe’) are all very important in showing a woman the guy is capable of taking care of her. Confidence shows a secure guy that knows what he’s doing and can handle adversity. Humor shows a guy who is comfortable and relaxed. Social intelligence shows a guy is capable of making friends and enlisting the help of others. All these things show a guy who has the resources to take care of his loved ones.
At the end of the day how a guy looks really isn’t that important (being well-groomed does matter though, but that’s a post for another day). You’re better off working on confidence, humor, and social skills if you want to set off those triggers that lead women to feel attracted to a man.
One often overlooked way you can make yourself look more confident and even generate social acceptance is through your voice. A guy with a strong, powerful voice can command the respect of others and display confidence simply by speaking.
Think about someone like James Bond. No matter who plays him, they all make sure to talk in a manner that highlights his masculinity while showing a relaxed confidence. His voice is not tense. He doesn’t rush. He knows what he says is important enough that when he speaks, people will listen.
Here are a couple tips that will help you develop a similarly confident, powerful voice. First, make sure that you’re taking full breaths before you speak. What you’re saying is important, so you’ll need to have enough breath to actually say it. It’s likely you’ll also want to talk slower. You don’t need to rush because you know people will listen. Also, it helps to lower the intonation of your voice, especially towards the ends of sentences. When your voice rises (like at the end of a question) it makes you sound uncertain. Keeping that intonation down will display confidence in what you’re saying.
Once you understand what women are genetically hardwired to find these qualities attractive it simply becomes a matter of demonstrating them. That will lead her to want to be with you, sleep with you, and may even make the woman fall in love with you. You can learn more about what women are looking for and how you can bring these qualities out in yourself (btw you already have them, it’s just a matter of knowing how to show them) by checking out all the information and videos from our Online Academy. For those of you more serious about attracting women into your life now you can check out one of our live bootcamps in NY and LA.
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