Building Blocks To Becoming A Leader (Ep. #789)

Leadership skills is a phrase that gets thrown around a lot yet can mean many different things depending on the person using it, so what does “leadership skills” really mean, what does the science say about the value of leadership skills, and what can you do.

What to Listen For

  • What traits do you need to bring to the table as a leader and what can you do to develop them?
  • Why is a strong frame necessary for effective leadership?
  • What does it mean to have a strong frame and what can you do to build one?
  • What tools and techniques can you start using today to be a more effective leader?
  • How do you build leadership skills?
  • Are leadership skills applicable outside of the workplace?
  • What is the CAKE equation and how can you use it to build confidence?
  • What does science say about the value of leadership skills?
  • What are the two leadership styles and which one do we tend to associate with leadership even though it’s not as effective as the other in the long run?
  • How do you work on or start building your leadership skills in your personal life?


It might come as a surprise to some that leadership skills are just as important in your personal life as they are in your professional life because being a leader doesn’t automatically imply ordering people around. That is a specific aspect of leadership and one that great leaders rarely resort to. Being a leader within your social circle can just mean taking the initiative in organizing the next poker night or girls’ night out instead of waiting for someone else to do it. Being a leader can also mean encouraging and supporting your friends in hard times and celebrating them in their successes. Leadership means having the confidence in yourself to raise up those around you without expecting anything in return.

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Resources from this Episode

Frame Analysis: An Essay on the Organization of Experience

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AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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