759: Dr. Geoffrey Miller on 5 Signals to Send When Dating

Dating can seem like a torturous uphill battle for many men and women, but it doesn’t have to be – understanding how and why we are attracted to one another can have a significant positive impact on your ability to find happiness in your love life, but how do you take the science behind attraction and use it to make dating fun and engaging?

What to Listen For

  • What is signaling theory?
  • What are fitness indicators and why are they so important to understand in the dating scenario?
  • What scientifically is shown to make you more attractive in terms of signaling?
  • How much of our behavior is guided by natural selection and what does the answer imply about humanity?
  • When you want to dance in a social setting, what is more important than being able to dance well?
  • What are many people doing wrong when it comes to their profiles on dating apps?
  • What should you include in your dating app profile?
  • Should you get professional photos done to use on dating apps?
  • Why are we entering a new era of dating and what can you do to ensure you’re able to adapt?
  • Why is working out a crucial foundation to start with when it comes to working on yourself from a self-development perspective?
  • What is a tender defender and why should you aspire to it?
  • What does it mean to stay true to yourself and how might you be interpreting it in a way that sabotages your behavior?
  • As a parent, how do you create an environment for your child to develop grit, success, and resilience when they reach the dating age?

Remember that you are alive today because every one of your ancestors was able to find a partner and start a family. You have the genetics to find the relationship you want, but it will likely take work to find it. Not only is it important for you to want to work on yourself for the sake of striving to be the best version of yourself, but it’s also important for potential partners to see that in you, so they know you are open to new ideas and experiences as well as always wanting to work on being the best partner.

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Resources from this Episode

The Mating Mind by Geoffrey Miller
Geoffrey Miller’s website

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AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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