Self Mastery

Create the best self imaginable
All great change begins with you. In this section, we discuss the thoughts, principles and behaviors that make up your life—from the habits that form your routine to the beliefs that shape your decisions. Here we explore the deeper foundations of productivity, empowerment and identity.

The Four Steps to Overcome Approach Anxiety


Here’s an experience I recently had with approach anxiety: July 28th, I walk into Chipotle, and there she is. Blonde, tall, with a ponytail extending from her baseball cap, and in full runner’s gear. I just came here to get a burrito, and instead, I’m awestruck by this beautiful woman. And she’s not alone. It appears she’s with a homeless … Read More


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Want to Overcome Your Social Status, IQ, and Genes? Make Friends.


Want to Overcome Your Social Status, IQ, and Genes? Make Friends.

Making friends isn’t just a smart networking approach or strategy for status. It’s intimately connected to our physical and mental well-being. If you needed more proof that our relationships literally make or break us, then check out the latest findings of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, which has found once again that social capital — the stuff of great … Read More


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Fear Is Not the Problem — a Counterintuitive Approach to Dealing With Social Anxiety


Fear Is Not the Problem -- a Counterintuitive Approach to Dealing With Social Anxiety

Struggling with social anxiety is painful. For this reason, most people try to get rid of their anxiety at all costs. Here, you’ll learn why trying to get rid of social anxiety can do more harm than good — and what to do instead. [Image by Dryhead] January, 2011 I entered the party with a sigh. My friends dragged me here. … Read More


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10 Things I Learned from James Altucher about Minimalism, Failure, and Not Giving Advice


10 Things I Learned from James Altucher about Minimalism, Failure, and Not Giving Advice

James Altucher is an extraordinary man with extraordinary perspectives on everything from smart business to living a satisfying life — and how they intertwine. Here are 10 things he taught us on episode 540 of The Art of Charm. James Altucher’s appearance on episode 540 of The Art of Charm was so chock full of wisdom that I felt compelled … Read More


in Art of Business, Art of Personal Development, Entrepreneurship, Productivity, Self Mastery

A Skeptical Look at Confirmation Bias


A Skeptical Look at Confirmation Bias

How powerful is confirmation bias? As skeptic Michael Shermer says: “It’s the mother of all biases.” In truth, we all believe in things we can’t prove. If you’re intelligent, well-educated, and good at pulling facts, you’re going to be even better at confirming your own beliefs than someone who’s less intelligent or well-educated. [Photo by Colonel Robert Wilson] Our brains … Read More


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