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Dr. Geoff Miller | Mating Grounds (Episode 334)


Dr. Geoff Miller is an author and the evolutionary psychologist behind Mating Grounds, a podcast with Tucker Max. All of that and more on The Art of Charm.

Find out what women really want (it’s science!) “As humans we are not a species that runs on physical dominance; we are a species that runs on social status, respect.”-Dr. Geoff Miller The Cheat Sheet: What body types are women most attracted to? (13:00) Phenotype: what is it and why should you care? (18:40) IUDs vs. The Pills: the details you … Read More


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Peter Sage | Why Certainty is a Myth (Episode 330)


Today Peter Sage joins us to talk about why certainty isn't real, how to embrace uncertainty ...and so much more on the 330th episode of The Art of Charm.

Become a complete version of you. “It’s not about what skills you’re born with, it’s about the mindset you develop.” -Peter Sage The Cheat Sheet: How to stop swimming in GOOP (and what goop stands for). (16:50) The question to ask to shift your perspective on a situation. (28:30) Why knowing something is useless. (31:00) The two emotions that align your heart and … Read More


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Scott Barry Kaufman | Mating Intelligence Unleashed (Episode 329)


Scott Kaufman, author of Mating Intelligence Unleashed, talks about what women find most attractive in men, and why being a bad boy doesn't work.

It only takes one. “Assertiveness and kindness is the combination most attractive to women.” -Scott Kaufman The Cheat Sheet: Dopamine is the pleasure molecule: true or false? (7:25) Scott defines a true alpha male. (18:40) The Dark Triad revealed: is it as ominous as it sounds? (19:10) What is positive psychology really about? (31:00) Why chat-up lines don’t work. (39:50) Mate copying: what … Read More


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Guy Winch, PhD | Emotional First Aid (Episode 328)


Guy Winch, PhD is a psychologist and the author of Emotional First Aid. Today he shares what emotional first aid is and how to be emotionally well.

Negative self-talk amplifies painful experiences. “We need to monitor our emotional health like we monitor our physical health. It has nothing to do with self-esteem, it has nothing to do with masculinity.” -Guy Winch The Cheat Sheet: Why avoidance doesn’t work and can actually make areas of your life worse. (10:30) Chronic loneliness is like smoking a pack of cigarettes a … Read More


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Art of Charm Toolbox | Keeping Relationships Fresh (Episode 323)


On this Toolbox edition of The Art of Charm we're talking about keeping relationships fresh, deepening intimacy, and making your relationship better.

On this Toolbox edition of The Art of Charm we talking about keeping relationships fresh, deepening intimacy, and making your relationship better. Don’t ever stop pursuing her. “A lot of what you do to get the girl, you need to do to keep the girl.” -The Art of Charm Toolbox The Cheat Sheet: How not to be needy. (12:00) When and … Read More


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Julian Treasure | Conscious Listening: Why It’s So Valuable (Episode 320)


Julian Treasure is a sound expert who helps people effectively use conscious listening.

How to listen the way women want you to. “If you are somebody who listens it gives you advantages in all walks of life. Persuaders, influencers and leaders are people who really listen.” – Julian Treasure The Cheat Sheet: You hear with your whole body: true or false? (6:35) Why listening is a skill and not something that comes naturally. (15:25) Julian explains why … Read More


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Jennifer Verdolin | The Wild Connection: Parallels Between Animal and Human Relationship Behaviors (Episode 315)


Dr. Jennifer Verdolin, animal behaviorist and author of Wild Connection, joins us to discuss what animals can teach us about dating and relationships.

Are deeper voices more attractive? “Animals show us to take our best attributes, whatever they are, and highlight them, display them.” – Jennifer Verdolin The Cheat Sheet: Looks matter! and why biology supports this. (6:00) What MHC is and why it’s so critical to successful attraction. (11:35) Why pretending to be something you’re not doesn’t work in the long run. (22:00) This … Read More


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James Fell | The Myth of the Alpha Male (Episode 312)


James Fell, a writer for the LA Times, Ask Men, the Chicago Tribune and Time magazine, joins us to talk about why the alpha male marketing idea is BS.

“In a lot of ways, the whole Alpha Male thing is just an excuse for being an asshole.” – James Fell The Cheat Sheet: Scientific research has debunked the Alpha concept: true or false? (6:00) Why you should run towards danger (i.e., your fears). (14:30) The secret to finding your innate talents (33:00) Ready, fire, aim: why this is a valid approach … Read More


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Adam Gilbert | The Psychology of Change (Episode 309)


Health and fitness psychology expert, Adam Gilbert joins us to talk about the psychology of weight loss and other changes in any area of your life.

“Unless you’re actually on Jeopardy, knowledge without action is useless!” -Adam Gilbert The Cheat Sheet: What’s the top reason people fear losing weight? (07:15) Why awareness is the key to making lasting changes. (16:50) The broccoli test: what it is and how to use it. (21:50) The most common roadblocks Adam sees. (27:30) How to use discomfort as your compass. (34:10) Why … Read More


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