In today’s episode, we cover the 7 steps to unshakable confidence with David Nurse. David is an NBA life and optimization coach, future bestselling author, and worldwide motivational speaker.
About David Nurse
David Nurse is a shooting and mindset coach who has trained more than 150 NBA players. He grew up in Iowa, played college basketball and then pro ball overseas, and later became the shooting coach of the Brooklyn Nets. He’s a motivational speaker and the author of Pivot & Go: The 29-Day Blueprint to Redefine and Achieve YOUR Success. He also hosts The One Percenter podcast.
Key takeaways
- Confidence is a skill you build through daily practice, and the work starts in the mind before it shows up in skills or workouts.
- Compare yourself to the best in your field so you can study and borrow from them, instead of scrolling past other people’s highlights.
- You get further by building one strength to an elite level than by being average at everything.
- Replace loaded words like slump and failure with new language, because negative words said out loud shape how you think.
- Serving your teammates and pouring into others takes pressure off you and makes you the person people want around.
- Once you start a hard action, your emotions catch up, so David times how long it takes him to push through the first 17 seconds.
David’s point that confidence grows from small, repeated actions is how we coach, too. If you’d like to see how that works with social skills and presence, take a look at how our program is set up.
Confidence can be developed with consistent practice like any other skill, but what concrete steps can you take everyday to achieve the confidence you’ve always wanted?
What to Listen For
- What is the common denominator of professional athletes that lead to success?
- Can you compare yourself to others in a healthy and positive way?
- How do you get people to be good teammates if they’re more concerned about themselves or their ego?
- What are the 7 steps you can take to achieve unshakable confidence?
- What does it mean to vote for yourself and why should you start voting for yourself now?
- What can you do to remind yourself of your potential to keep you from wasting time and falling into stagnation?
- What tips can you use to make your mornings and evenings effective parts of your day?
- How do you rewire your brain for the behavior you want, so your behavior doesn’t sabotage your relationships, your work, and your life?
Confidence is not something we are born with, but a skill we develop over time. That means no matter your circumstances, you have a certain level of confidence and you can apply consistent practice over time to increase it. In fact, you can take small steps every day, and after enough small steps, you’ll have made leaps in progress. But you must be consistent and keep reminding yourself that no matter how confident you are, there is always room for improvement, so arrogance is never acceptable, as arrogance implies you already know everything you need to know.
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Resources from this Episode
Pivot & Go: The 29-Day Blueprint to Redefine and Achieve YOUR Success
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Best quotes from David Nurse
“you need to be interviewing them just as much as they’re interviewing you because socialization culture that goes top-down”
David Nurse, 3:00
“everything starts in the mind I think 90% of its mental ten percent of its physical especially at the highest level”
David Nurse, 11:30
“we don’t even have those in our vocabulary never have failure you never have slump”
David Nurse, 18:30
“your emotions are contingent on action or inaction and you can start to change your emotions if you just start with the action”
David Nurse, 45:30
“the only thing holding us back from becoming who we were meant to be is ourselves”
David Nurse, 58:30
FAQ
Who is David Nurse?
David Nurse is a shooting and mindset coach who has worked with more than 150 NBA players. He was the shooting coach of the Brooklyn Nets, and he’s now a speaker and author of Pivot & Go.
What does David Nurse do as a speaker?
He speaks to companies and audiences about mindset, routines, and building confidence through daily action. He draws on his work with pro athletes, and he stresses tools you can actually use over pure motivation.
What are David Nurse’s 7 steps to confidence?
In this episode he walks through confidence through comparison, focusing on your strengths, a highlight reel of your best moments, redefining your vocabulary, pouring into others, choosing your second as a mental cue, and relentless consistency. He uses them with NBA players, and he says anyone can use them.
What is David Nurse’s book Pivot & Go about?
Pivot & Go is a 29-day mindset blueprint with 29 chapters. Each one offers a mindset pivot, and the book covers morning and evening routines, voting for yourself, and building relationships.
What is the Golden 15?
The Golden 15 is David’s name for a small circle of genuine relationships with people you care about and want to pour into. He describes it as the opposite of transactional networking, and he blocks time each day to check in with them.
Related reading
- How to build confidence
- Authentic confidence
- How to become a master networker
- How to connect with people more successful than you
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