Did you just get out of a bad relationship? We’ve all been there. And while you might want to bounce back, you also might not have the first idea how to actually make that happen. For the man who is interested in turning his situation around sooner rather than later, The Art of Charm presents this handy guide on how you can bounce back from a bad relationship and start dating again.
Accept The Pain
First, you need to stop fighting and accept the pain. Breakups are hard. They’re not going to get any easier by pretending that you’re not having a hard time of things. So let yourself feel bad. Don’t just yourself for it, but also don’t wallow in it. Just accept that it’s there. Before you can start dating again, you must come to terms with your loss.
Take Some Time For Yourself
There’s a temptation to throw yourself into every social event possible when you first break up. However, what you really need to throw yourself into is yourself. Spend time on your career, your body (at the gym) and your passions and interests. Take time to do all the things that you would do if you suddenly had a lot of extra time — you do. Self-improvement is never wasted time.
Think About What You Want… and What You Don’t
One thing about a breakup is that it often times gives us a fresh perspective on what we’re looking for in our next relationship. It also allows us to reflect on what we want to avoid next time out. Taking a little time to reflect on precisely what it is that you’re looking for is going to make the hunt for that a lot smoother. The point is not to come up with a long list of “must haves” and “must not haves.” It’s just to generally get your priorities together before getting out there.
Get Out There
In order to start dating again, you have to start meeting people (there’s always a catch). You’re never going to meet new people if you don’t put yourself in situations where you can do so. So get to it. You might never feel completely “ready.” One great way to go about this is to get some support from your closest and most trusted friends. Having them hold your hand through this process is totally OK. Whatever it takes to get you back out there and swinging again.
One of the things you need to remember is that, no matter how hard getting out there again can sound, once you do it, you’re probably going to feel a lot better, like a big weight has been lifted. Don’t rush it. Give yourself some room and some space. But also don’t make too many excuses and put it off longer than it needs to be.
Let People In
After a bad breakup there can be a tendency to not let people in. We understand that and we also understand the need to be selective about who you spend your time with. But do let other people in. It’s the only way you’re going to truly and finally move on. So get out there, have fun, and start dating again! You deserve it.