Texting Tips for Online Daters

With the right texting tips you can really step up your online dating game. You’ve probably already had some success with women when it comes to dating online. However, if you follow some very simple and basic texting tips, you can start succeeding on a totally different level. Best of all, it’s just a slight reorientation from what you’re already doing.

Texting Tip 1: Flirt

You want to pique her interest once you get her phone number with a little bit of flirting. The biggest thing to remember about how to flirt with women when you text is to keep it light and playful. Joke around with her. Don’t be afraid to use an emoticon to really hammer home the fact that you’re teasing her. This will get her relaxed, but also interested in you: If there’s one quality women look for in men, it’s a sense of humor.

Texting Tip 2: Get Her to Agree to Meet

Remember, that when it comes to texting, the main thing is to schedule a date. Most of the best of communication happens in person. What’s more, texting doesn’t convey the really important parts of interpersonal communication; intonation and body language. For that, you’re going to have to skip the texts and get her in your presence. That’s when you can start creating an intimacy that texting never can. How do you move from texts to up-close and in-person communication?

Texting Tip 3: Start Shooting Out Killer Date Ideas

You’ve been texting her and you’ve gotten her to agree to a date. Now you need to make the concrete transition from text messages to a date. But how do you do that?

Start texting her date ideas. Don’t “spray and pray.” Start with your best date idea, then work your way down the list if she doesn’t seem interested. Three strikes and she’s out: That is, if you text a girl three different date ideas and she doesn’t bite on any of them, she’s not serious or not interested. Move on to someone who is because no amount of texting tips is going to get this one.

Texting Tip 4: Managing Logistics

Once she agrees to go on a date via text message, you want to start managing logistics. You need to work out what time you’re meeting, where you’re meeting, whether someone is picking someone else up or if the two of you are just going to meet somewhere. This represents a new stage of your texting game. You’re no longer flirting via text message. You’re making plans. Whereas before was all party, you’re now in the realm of “all business.”

Texting Tip 5: Wait for the Date

Once you’ve got logistics squared away, end things with a simple “Great, see you then!” text. If she texts you after this, keep things brief. Again, you want her wanting more and you want to communicate with her in ways that texting just can’t. Ending things after you make the date is the perfect capstone to your text game.

AJ Harbinger - author of 1124 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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