Every man knows on some level that texting is a necessary part of his dating game in the 21st Century. However, many men are still intimidated by the prospect of texting girls. The good news is that texting girls isn’t rocket science. In fact, it’s just a simple process that any man can learn and master. Here’s the basics.
When to First Text
It used to be that men would agonize over how long they had to wait after getting a woman’s number to call her. Now guys wonder how long they should wait to text. The short answer is that there’s no reason to wait to text: As soon as you get her number, send her a fast text that just says your name and makes some kind of little joke to remind her of who you are. I like to say something like “It’s AJ, the guy with the beautiful blue eyes :-D”
It’s just that simple.
What to First Text the Day After
Of course, that’s not going to get a text conversation started. That’s something that’s going to happen later. This can be the next day or a couple of days later. Whenever you’re feeling it and whenever you have the time. The best thing to do is to just shoot her a quick one telling her that it was great meeting her and referencing something that happened the night before in your text. The purpose of this is getting her to recall why she gave you her number in the first place, why the two of you clicked and how much fun the two of you had.
Don’t over think it. Just do something really simple like “Those were some great taco truck tacos” or whatever. The actual content is less important than reminding her why she had a great time around you.
Flirting Via Text
Flirting via texting girls is great, but one of the most important things to remember is that emoticons are your friend. I personally couldn’t flirt with a woman without my emojis. Don’t be afraid to be a little cheeky and even push the envelope a little, but avoid being sleazy or too overtly sexual. The best interactions happen in person, not via text, so you want to save more intimate conversation for when the two of you are together.
Moving Toward the Date
Always remember that the point of any text conversation is to get her to agree to go out on a date with you. Move things forward in that direction. The best thing to do is to tell her that you’re going to do something and then suggest that she come along with you. Of course, it needs to be something that you think that she would like — preferably a point of common interest that the two of you have discussed in the past.
Finalizing the Date
Once she’s agreed to go out with you, you need to finalize the date. Do this by figuring out who is going to pick who up, where you’re going to meet and what time. After that… mostly let it go until the two of you are together. The worst thing that you can do in a text is use it for “getting to know you” conversation. Maybe shoot her a flirty text message here and there, but for the most part, leave getting to know each other for the date.