Making the Perfect Impression

It’s a cliche, but it’s still true and it still has its own wisdom: You never get a second chance to make a first impression. So when you approach a woman — at a bar, club or anywhere else — you’re going to want to make the best impression possible. You want to make a perfect impression possible. After all, the best way to meet women is to come prepared and leave her wanting more. So how do you do that?

What’s a Perfect Impression

The first thing to talk about here is the idea of a perfect impression. A lot of times guys think that they have to do that or else it’s a total wash. But here’s the thing: People remember the great and the terrible. Everything in between, they more or less forget. What this means is that if you can make a great impression, that’s… well great. Likewise, terrible impressions are terrible. Everything else is just a foot in the door to keep trying to make the kind of impression that you want.

Get it? Good. So how make a great impression?

The Best Way to Meet Women – Just Go for It

Too many guys make the mistake of hanging around and waiting for the “perfect time” to make a first impression. The perfect time is as soon as you notice her. Don’t hover around waiting — make the right time by approaching her right away as soon as you notice her and decide that you want to talk to her. It’s a seriously confident move, which brings us to our second point.

Be Confident

Confidence is probably the best ally that you can have when talking to girls, approaching or otherwise. Want some good news? You can appear confident without actually being confident. Good news, right? But how do you do it?

Posture is the main answer, but also how you walk. The first is easy enough: Stand up straight but relaxed and you’re going to look confident. As for the second, don’t be afraid to pattern a walk on Clint Eastwood (or whoever) until you get one of your own. The point is to feel confident — even if you’re not, just for a few minutes — so that you can look confident when you approach.

Don’t Worry About Knocking It Out of the Park

Again, a lot of guys make the mistake of thinking that they have to knock it out of the park every time they approach. but the best way to meet women is to just have fun with it. All you’re trying to do is pique her interest so that the two of you can have a conversation. So go up, say something to grab her attention enough to deliver your second sentence and go from there. Rather than feeling like you have to make her fall in love with you right then and there, try and get her to keep talking to you. That’s all it takes.

AJ Harbinger - author of 1050 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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