Have you ever been in a situation where you didn’t know if the girl that you’re dating was into you or your stuff? It’s not a good situation to be in. On the one hand, you don’t want to make things awkward or weird between the two of you because you’re worried that she only likes you for your stuff. On the other hand, you don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who is more interested in the things that you own than she is you.
Material Goods Don’t Create Rapport
Let’s say that you have a killer car. No matter how cool it is, it doesn’t create rapport. Sure, you might have a common interest in cars in general, but the car itself is not a connection. This is an important thing to remember at all times; Stuff is never something that creates a connection between you and another person. If that’s the only connection that exists, you’re right in thinking that there’s a problem.
She Only Wants to Do Things That Cost Money
You and I both know that the best things in the dating life aren’t free; It costs money to go out and as the man, you’re often going to be the one spending the money. However, if you’ve been dating for more than a few weeks and she only ever wants to do things that cost money — a lot of money — that’s not a great sign. Start with askign her why she only wants to do things that cost money. Her answer can help you to find out: does she like you or your stuff?
She Expects Gifts
Gifts are great. Probably the only thing that feels better than getting them is giving them. However, when someone starts expecting gifts from you that’s no good; Worse than “no good” it can be a clear sign that she’s more interested in your stuff than she is you. Is she noticeably bummed when you don’t come bearing gifts? Does she like you to buy her a lot of things? Does she hint that you should get her even more stuff? If the answer to any of these questions is “yes,” there’s a really good chance that she’s more interested in your stuff than she is you.
She’s Attached To One of Your Possessions
Let’s go back to that amazing car that you have. Does she identify strongly with that or some other possession? Do you ever feel like she’s more interested in a relationship with it than one with you? It might be something worth talking about with her. Maybe it’s just a miscommunication, but maybe there’s something there that you should address.
Does She Ever Offer to Pay?
Whether or not you pay or she pays is between the two of you. However, you might want to consider that she likes your stuff more than you if she never even offers to pay. Does she like you to pay all the time? That’s the important part — not so much that she foot the bill for things, but that, from time to time, she offers to be the one doing so.
