A divorce is one of the hardest things that any man can go through. You might not think that there’s any future after it, but we’re here to tell you that there is. Indeed, what’s to come might very well be the best part of your life. If you’re dealing with life after divorce, it can be hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel — you might not even think that it’s there. While you’ll have to work through things in your own time, this is a guide to getting out the other side as quickly and painlessly as is possible.
Plan For the Future: Setting Goals
This is an important thing for any man to do and it’s doubly important for men going through a difficult period of their life. You need to start setting goals for yourself: Daily goals, weekly goals, monthly goals, quarterly goals and annual goals. Think about where you want to be, the things that you want in life. Write them down and don’t be afraid to dream big. We have confidence that there’s very little a man can’t accomplish when he sets his mind to it. Especially when dealing with life after divorce, it’s important to focus on positive futures rather than negative pasts.
Day by Day: How to Use Your Time Effectively
A simple thing that can make each day a lot easier in life after divorce is a diary or calendar. On this calendar, you plan out your day and list the things that you want to accomplish during that day. These don’t have to be anything big. They can be as simple as hitting the gym three times a week or saving a certain amount of money for the trip that you’ve always wanted to go on. The point here is to be making daily progress toward your goals.
Tracking Progress: The Importance of a Daily Journal
It’s also important that you track your progress in a way that allows you to encourage and cheerlead for yourself. The best way to do this is through a daily journal. This can be as simple or as complicated as you want. You can pour out your feelings or just list what you did during the day, with some notes about your progress. Go back and look at this on a monthly basis. That way you can compare where you were a month ago to where you are now. Any progress that occurs faster than that is great, but the daily journal provides a record of what you’ve done and how you did it.
Getting Out There: Knowing When It’s Time
Of course, life after divorce is all leading toward the day when you reenter the dating scene. But how do you know when the time is right?
One answer is that the time is always right — and never right. You ultimately just have to get back out there and start doing it with the knowledge it might be difficult no matter how long you wait.
