The worst thing in your love life right now is fear of rejection. It’s poison to a man looking to meet women and go on more and better dates. But how is fear of rejection ruining your love life and, more to the point, what can you do about it to turn things around? This simple guide will have you taking the first steps toward getting over your fear of rejection and leveling up your social game.
Problem #1: Approach Anxiety
Approach anxiety is that feeling that you get in the pit of your stomach when you try and approach a woman to speak to her. Worst of all, this can have you not even approaching her in the first place.
Solution: Start approaching women the second that they catch your eye. The only way to start getting rid of approach anxiety is to mercilessly hammer it into oblivion. The only way to do this is to start approaching. Eventually your fear of doing it will decrease until it becomes only a faint memory.
Problem #2: Seeking Approval
Seeking approval from others puts them on edge. The reason being that basically everyone wants approval from someone else to feel good about themselves. When you seek approval, you’re making an inherently stressful situation even more difficult for everyone.
Solution: Get approval from within. Try and cultivate the posture of a playful puppy or a little boy. Be self-amused and you give those around you permission to have a good time. When that happens, they’ll associate you with the second that they started relaxing a bit.
Problem #3: Selling Yourself Short
A lot of men make one of the classic mistakes of negotiation when they’re being social: They sell themselves short and aim for the lowest thing they think they can get. In fact, you should be shooting for the stars and fully confident that you can get anything that you want.
Solution: Stretch your legs. Confidently approach the most beautiful woman in the bar with the attitude that she’s going to think you’re the most interesting guy at the bar. Remember that even the best ball players only hit the ball 1/3 of the time, so if this only works 1/4 of the time, you’re doing pretty good.
Problem #4: Low-Value Behaviors
A lot of the problems you have might be physical manifestations of your fear of rejection: poor posture, not smiling, things like that. These are stances that project a low sense of self and a low social value to everyone around you.
Solution: Practice good posture and smiling with your whole face, including your eyes, for five minutes every day and five minutes before you go out for the night. Try and form a muscle memory of what it feels like so you can pull it out of your pocket whenever you need it.
Avoiding socializing isn’t the way to avoid rejection. In fact, the more you socialize, the less you will get rejected and the less you will fear rejection. The Art of Charm Boot Camp is the best way that you can learn how to be the social superman you’ve always wanted to be. Call today for your free phone consultation. We’ll talk about where you’re at, where you want to be and how we can get you there. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
