There’s no shortcut to getting the type of confidence you know will be a game changer in your life. With that said, like with anything else, there’s right way and a wrong way to do things. The right way will get you there faster than the wrong way. So when guys come to The Art of Charm looking for confidence, we tell them what we just told you. Then we show them how to go about getting confidence with some simple self esteem building activities that any man can practice and master. Now let’s talk about 5 ways to build your self-esteem.
Body Language
Body language makes you look confident, which makes other treat you like a confident man, which in turn makes it easier for you act more confidently. So what does strong, confident body language consist of? Three things, mostly:
- Posture: Stand up straight and tall with your shoulders back and your head held high.
- Smile: The trick here is to smile with your whole face — not just your mouth.
- Space: Confident men take up space and have purposeful movements.
These are all things you can practice. They’ll make you feel more confident in the short term and they have a cumulative effect about them. It will take time, but we’re talking in terms of days or weeks, not months or years.
Clinking Glasses
This one can be a real game changer for guys looking to gain confidence fast; Clinking glasses as you walk around the room or even grabbing a high five.
Here’s the thing: Most people are going to return your request for a cheers or a high-five. And if they don’t, they’re the one with the problem, not you. But this works to build confidence in two ways. First, it gets you more comfortable with approaching people in a social manner. Second, it gets you accustomed to the occasional and inevitable rejections that happen.
There’s one more thing it does: Make you look highly confident and social in front of the rest of the bar. So set a reasonable goal for the night as to how many people you’re going to high five or clink glasses with.
Approaching Immediately
Approaching immediately isn’t just good practice… it will also have you feeling more confident. When a pretty woman catches your eye, don’t think about it — just approach her. Are you going to be successful every time? No. But you’re going to gain confidence by becoming the guy who approaches women when he sees them, rather than hovering around. What’s more, you’ll come off as more confident when you approach quickly. With every single approach, you are learning how to build your self esteem.
Learning a New Skill
It doesn’t matter if it’s fixing a car or learning how to do yo-yo tricks; new skills will make you confident. So pick a skill, maybe one that’s totally arbitrary and maybe even a little “silly.” Mastering it will make you more confident and what’s more, you can use it as a party trick when speaking to new women.
Keeping a Diary
One way that’s almost necessary to build confidence is to keep a diary (one of the least-know self esteem building activities a man can do). Without one, it can be very easy to not see where you’re making advancement, or see just how far you’ve come in such a short period of time. Keep a diary and you’re going to be able to see just what you’re doing — and how your efforts are bringing you forward.
I hope you liked these self esteem building activities for adults. When we start building our self esteem, people start to take notice and want to be a part of your life. Learning how to build self esteem is an important life lesson for all those moments where you might have lost some confidence.
