Have you ever wondered what’s a good age to start dating? Well, there’s a phrase we’re quite fond of here at The Art of Charm: The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, the second best time is right now. And while we didn’t invent the phrase, we think it underscores a valuable part of what we teach. You can’t change the past, but you can start making the present as awesome as possible. That’s why when guys ask us how long they have to wait to master the skills necessary for dating we tell them they don’t have to wait at all. Here’s how to start seizing the moment right now.
Preparing to Go Out
Going out for the night starts when you’re still in your apartment. It’s good to get in the right frame of mind before you even put your keys in the ignition or hop on the bus. Some ways to get your night off to a good start include:
- Practice Your Smile and Posture: Smile and posture are the two best ways to project confidence when you’re out at the bar or club. Put in five minutes of practice on each before you head out.
- Bang Out Some Exercise: Exercise can elevate your mood, so what better time to do it than when you’re getting ready to head out for the night? Do 50 pushups or 10 pullups — anything short, fast and do-able without breaking too much of a sweat.
- Listen to Something Uplifting: For some guys this means energetic music. For others it means motivational speeches. Some guys prefer stand-up comedy tapes. Whatever is going to raise your energy level, listen to it while you’re getting read.
Entering the Room
When you enter the room, you want to do so creating an air of confidence. Try for a high-five from the door guy or clinking glasses with the person next to you when you order your first drink. It’s important to remember that attraction starts not when you see the right girl, but when she sees you. Cultivate confidence at all times and you’ll have a leg up on all the other men in the room when it comes to creating attraction.
Approaching Immediately
When you see a woman you want to talk to probably the most important thing you can do is to approach confidently and immediately. These two concepts have a lot of overlap — approaching immediately is, in and of itself, a demonstration of confidence. You don’t have to deliver the “perfect line.” You just have to start talking to her, getting her to laugh and smile a bit, then let her know you’re interested and start getting to know each other. Don’t overcomplicate it.
Getting Her Number
We have an almost foolproof method for getting a woman’s phone number that we’re going to share with you here:
- Don’t wait until you’re about to leave. Instead, wait for a high point in the interaction.
- Don’t ask for her number. Instead, tell her that you need her number so the two of you can get together some time.
- Hand her your phone ready to receive her number. Make it as hassle free for her.
- List off some killer date ideas while she enters her number.
- Text her immediately with something light, playful and flirtatious.
So, stop worrying about what’s a good age to start dating. You have the answer, now you just need to move from the theoretical to practical.
