The Art of Charm understands: You want to flirt online, but you’re not sure about the right way to do it. You’re getting out there, but not getting the results that you want. You’re doing all right… but you want to be doing better.
You might be doing a lot of things right. The problem is that you’re also doing a few things wrong that are killing your game. The Art of Charm is here to show you how to avoid common pitfalls and traps that men fall into when they’re flirting with girls online.
Not Using Emoticons
A lot of guys don’t want to use emoticons and we can understand why. But here’s the thing: Emoticons are how you communicate to women that you’re joking around. It’s how you create a playful and light mood when you’re talking to a girl online and flirting with her. Creating that mood is absolutely essential when it comes to flirting with a girl online. Since she can’t see your smile or hear the playful tone of your voice you need some other way to communicate that to her. Emoticons are great, but Emojis are even better.
Being Too Serious
See above: A lot of guys use the Internet for getting to know you type conversation with women. Online isn’t the place for that, even though it is a great place to flirt with women. You want to be playful and make her want to be around you. You don’t want to get to know her there, because the best part of communication (your tonality and other non-linguistic cues) are lost when the two of you are chatting online.
Instead, you want to flirt online with a goal in mind and that goal is getting her to go on a date with you.
Not Going For the Date
Remember that when you flirt online you’re not doing it for its own sake. Rather, you’re doing it because you want to meet up and go on a date. When you’re flirting, remember that you have that goal and to always be moving toward it. When there comes a high point in an interaction, tell her that the two of you need to get together some time. Then throw out a few date ideas based on common interests.
If she’s not into the first couple of date ideas, don’t get discouraged. Throw a few more out and maybe even ask her out at a different time. Just because she’s busy this weekend doesn’t mean that she doesn’t want to go out with you — it just means that she’s busy this weekend.
Need more tips to flirt online? Check out this article, which has a basic introduction to flirting for guys. Then check out our entire flirting and attraction section, chock full of tips on how to get the most out of every night out.