For the shy man, there’s just one problem he needs to overcome before he can start tackling anything else: His shyness. Shyness isn’t a curse. It’s something that you can overcome. You need to put a lot of attention and energy into it, but it’s something that you can defeat. If you’re a shy man whose shyness is holding him back from living the social life that he wants, this is one article here at The Art of Charm that you just can’t miss.
Why You Should Overcome Shyness
You might not realize just how much your shyness is holding you back. It’s not just your social life: You might be losing out in your professional life as well. Put simply, shyness can be a huge problem in anyone’s life. To overcome shyness may be the first step toward becoming the man that you’ve always wanted to be, the confident and bold man who goes after what he wants.
Stand Tall, Big Smile
There are two very simple ways that you can start to overcome shyness tonight. They are good posture and a good smile. This isn’t just a theory. It’s a scientifically proven fact that good posture and a good smile give you more confidence, which can go a long way toward totally smashing your shyness and replacing it with the swagger that you’ve always wanted.
This week, take ten minutes every night to practice good posture and a good smile in the mirror. Then, when you head out for the night, try these and see if they don’t make you feel just a little less shy.
Get Comfortable Approaching
Just like you’re never going to gain huge muscles unless you work out, so will you never stop being shy unless you get out of your comfort zone. Make a goal of approaching a certain number of women every time that you go out. You can start with just one if that’s what you’re comfortable with. The important thing is that you approach a woman and start a conversation. Once you start doing that, you’ll see how easy it was, as well as what you’ve been missing. This is a key component of melting your shyness away.
Maintain Good Eye Contact
For the shy man, maintaining eye contact can be a problem. However, it can also be the thing that starts getting your shyness to go away. Making good eye contact with a woman when you talk to her gives the impression of confidence. The impression of confidence quickly erodes your shyness, becoming the very real confidence that you want to acquire. Much like approaching, it also allows you the opportunity to become more comfortable with being more extroverted. Soon, you’ll see how your shyness has held you back and how getting out there really isn’t that bad at all.
Don’t Be Afraid to Walk Away
Shy men and bold men alike: We want men to not be afraid of walking away from women. Don’t feel like you have to spend the whole night talking to a woman. If you get too uncomfortable or bored, just bail. Take a walk around the room, meet up with your friends, go to the bathroom, dance, get a drink, whatever you want. Walking away shows that you aren’t beholden to a single woman for the whole night, which is one of the least shy, most confident gestures you can make.
