If you’re a father, dating can be a challenge. In fact, some guys give up because they find it so daunting. While it’s true that there are additional challenges when it comes to dating when you have children, there’s no reason you can’t have a vibrant and exciting social life. I’ve put together some dating tips for men with kids to help you live the life you’ve always wanted and are totally capable of having.
Use All Your Resources
Finding time to meet people can be hard when you’re a dad. Still, the Internet age makes it easier than ever to meet people without leaving your home. Putting up profiles on dating sites is a great way for all kinds of men with limited time to meet women. Online dating has a number of advantages:
- Selection: There are literally tens of thousands of women for you to choose from. Where else can you find that?
- Easier to Approach: Many men find it easier to send a woman a quick message online than talk to her at a bar.
- Laying It Out: When you put up an online dating profile, you can mention that you have children right off the bat. This allows you to talk only to women interested in dating men with kids.
Accepting “You” Time
Obviously when you’re a parent your children have to come first. But that doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to have a life of your own. It’s a good idea to keep your dating life private from your kids until things are serious. This is because you can’t bring everyone you date into your children’s lives. It’s also because it allows you to have separate time, time that’s just for you and your date — adult time. Accept that you deserve this and allow yourself to enjoy it.
Overcoming Cash Flow Problems
No doubt about it, kids can be expensive. That doesn’t mean you can’t date, however. Here are some suggestions for men who feel like they don’t have the money to go on dates:
- City Papers: The city weeklies are a great place to find free and cheap stuff to do. Whether it’s a free art exhibition or a stroll through a farmer’s market, your local city weekly can provide you with great date ideas.
- Local Music: Local music is great and inexpensive, sometimes free. Support your local scene and have a great time.
- Stay In Dates: Have her over for dinner some night when you have a babysitter. Women love a man who can cook.
- A Walk in the Park: A walk in the park is a great way for you two to get to know one another. There’s way less pressure on a date when the two of you aren’t facing one another. Walking side-by-side is a great way for you two to get to know one another.
- Coffee Quickies: Get a cup of coffee and schedule the date for half an hour. This allows you a graceful exit if things aren’t going well, while also allowing you to go overtime if you like. Total cost should be under ten bucks.
- The Roller Rink: Roller skating dates allow you to be physical, provide opportunities for physical contact, show off your fun side and don’t cost much.
These are just a few ways to get out of the house while spending little to nothing. With a little creativity you can come up with tons of date ideas in your price range.
Dates With the Kids
When you get to the point where you introduce your girl to your kids, life will get a lot easier. Now you can start having outings like picnics and trips to the children’s museum that allow you to spend time with your kids and the woman in your life. And really, what could be better than that?
