Vanessa Van Edwards | How to Read People Like a Book (Episode 281)

“I do human lie detection; that’s one of those skills that’s a blessing and a curse.” -Vanessa Van Edwards

Imagine what you could do if you always knew what someone else was really thinking — no matter what they were saying to you. How would that change your work life, your life at home, and your relationships?

Here to help you do just that is Vanessa Van Edwards of the Science of People, a human behavior research lab. She joins the Art of Charm podcast to give us the inside scoop on human behavior, microexpressions, being a human lie detector, and how to read people like a book.

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Vanessa Van Edwards has long been fascinated by people’s behaviors. In fact, she thought she would work for the CIA or the Secret Service until she realized that would mean interrogating people. Instead, she opted to combine her interest in people with self-help for the business world, which eventually led to her joining the Science of People.

The work she and her colleagues do there has been recognized around the world and has been featured on such notable media outlets as Fast Company, Forbes, and NPR BusinessWeek to name just a few.

In Vanessa’s words, her work combines “sexy science with self-help” and she brings that perspective to this episode. We talk about how to use non-verbal communication as a secret weapon and the art of decoding hidden messages so you know what people really mean — regardless of what they are telling you.

The finer details of this show include:

  • Can you tell someone’s success or power based just on their face? Vanessa tells all.
  • What’s the facial feedback hypothesis?
  • What’s one of the hardest microexpressions to recover from?
  • 93.6% accurate predictor of divorce — what is it?
  • The one microexpression that can open an opportunity to connect with a woman.
  • And so much more!

In this show, Vanessa and I give you the seven microexpressions, specific ways to recognize them, and why they are important. From anger and contempt to happiness and sadness, we dive deep into each so you can begin to recognize them in your friends, family, co-workers, and romantic interests.

We also talk about mirror neurons, which are like brain copy cats, and they help us “mirror” the person or people we are interacting with to create connections and that feeling of familiarity.

We cover so much in this show and it’s all information you need to know! This is a primer on reading expressions and the scientific research behind it. Even if you aren’t familiar with how to decode body language or how to read other forms of non-verbal communication, you’re going to take away a lot from this show and you’re going to be able to learn it and use it quickly.

At the Art of Charm, we talk about the mind following the body and the body following the mind, so having Vanessa here was a natural fit. I loved talking with her and sharing as much of her knowledge as we could on this show!

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Jordan Harbinger - author of 880 posts on The Art of Charm

Jordan Harbinger has spent several years abroad in Europe and the developing world, including South America, Eastern Europe, and the Middle East, and speaks several languages. He has also worked for various governments and NGOs overseas, traveled through war zones, and been kidnapped -- twice. He’ll tell you the only reason he’s still alive and kicking is because of his ability to talk his way into (and out of) just about any type of situation. Here at The Art of Charm, Jordan shares that experience, and the system borne as a result, with students and clients.

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