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Marni Kinrys | Your Wing Girl (Episode 426)


Having a baby is a stressful, transformative experience for even the most prepared couples. Here, we talk about how to survive the ordeals — and enjoy the rewards — of parenthood together. “During that [first] three months, you’re so tired…you don’t even have time to notice there are problems in the relationship.” -Marni Kinrys The Cheat Sheet: Why have a … Read More


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Marni Battista | Advice from a Crazy Ex-Girlfriend (Episode 422)


If being parked in a bad dating pattern is your idea of a comfort zone, consider how a little discomfort will take you to a far better place. “Imagine two dysfunctional puzzle pieces out in the universe with a magnet…” -Marni Battista The Cheat Sheet: If you want to date out of your league, you just have to be 10% … Read More


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Dr. Emily Nagoski | Come As You Are (Episode 414)


Dr. Emily Nagoski, author of Come As You Are, explains the science of desire and the two types of desire response on today's episode of The Art of Charm.

Most of us have been taught some BS about sexual desire. “The way to become a person’s type is to treat them in a way that makes them feel really, really good.” -Dr. Emily Nagoski The Cheat Sheet: Why women are easier to turn off than men. What is yucking people’s yums? Dr. Nagoski explains how fetishes develop. How orgasms are … Read More


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Dr. Chris Ryan | Sex At Dawn (Episode 363)


Dr. Chris Ryan has co-authored the book Sex At Dawn. He shares what biology tells us about our sexual history and more on episode 363 of The Art of Charm.

Sex has long been about relationships, not procreating. “Monogamy is like vegetarianism: it doesn’t come naturally to our species.” -Dr. Chris Ryan The Cheat Sheet: Why the gangbang porn category is so popular from a biological standpoint. Women are usually the most vocal during sex: why? The one surefire way to know if a woman has an orgasm. Monogamy may … Read More


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Dr. Geoff Miller | Mating Grounds (Episode 334)


Dr. Geoff Miller is an author and the evolutionary psychologist behind Mating Grounds, a podcast with Tucker Max. All of that and more on The Art of Charm.

Find out what women really want (it’s science!) “As humans we are not a species that runs on physical dominance; we are a species that runs on social status, respect.”-Dr. Geoff Miller The Cheat Sheet: What body types are women most attracted to? (13:00) Phenotype: what is it and why should you care? (18:40) IUDs vs. The Pills: the details you … Read More


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Scott Barry Kaufman | Mating Intelligence Unleashed (Episode 329)


Scott Kaufman, author of Mating Intelligence Unleashed, talks about what women find most attractive in men, and why being a bad boy doesn't work.

It only takes one. “Assertiveness and kindness is the combination most attractive to women.” -Scott Kaufman The Cheat Sheet: Dopamine is the pleasure molecule: true or false? (7:25) Scott defines a true alpha male. (18:40) The Dark Triad revealed: is it as ominous as it sounds? (19:10) What is positive psychology really about? (31:00) Why chat-up lines don’t work. (39:50) Mate copying: what … Read More


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Art of Charm Toolbox | Keeping Relationships Fresh (Episode 323)


On this Toolbox edition of The Art of Charm we're talking about keeping relationships fresh, deepening intimacy, and making your relationship better.

On this Toolbox edition of The Art of Charm we talking about keeping relationships fresh, deepening intimacy, and making your relationship better. Don’t ever stop pursuing her. “A lot of what you do to get the girl, you need to do to keep the girl.” -The Art of Charm Toolbox The Cheat Sheet: How not to be needy. (12:00) When and … Read More


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Jennifer Verdolin | The Wild Connection: Parallels Between Animal and Human Relationship Behaviors (Episode 315)


Dr. Jennifer Verdolin, animal behaviorist and author of Wild Connection, joins us to discuss what animals can teach us about dating and relationships.

Are deeper voices more attractive? “Animals show us to take our best attributes, whatever they are, and highlight them, display them.” – Jennifer Verdolin The Cheat Sheet: Looks matter! and why biology supports this. (6:00) What MHC is and why it’s so critical to successful attraction. (11:35) Why pretending to be something you’re not doesn’t work in the long run. (22:00) This … Read More


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James Fell | The Myth of the Alpha Male (Episode 312)


James Fell, a writer for the LA Times, Ask Men, the Chicago Tribune and Time magazine, joins us to talk about why the alpha male marketing idea is BS.

“In a lot of ways, the whole Alpha Male thing is just an excuse for being an asshole.” – James Fell The Cheat Sheet: Scientific research has debunked the Alpha concept: true or false? (6:00) Why you should run towards danger (i.e., your fears). (14:30) The secret to finding your innate talents (33:00) Ready, fire, aim: why this is a valid approach … Read More


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