Numerous dating advice websites are filled with lines and routines, and some of them can even work on certain women under certain circumstances, but whether you decide to use a direct approach or a popular opener, it’s important to keep one thing in mind:
Your words really aren’t that important.
That’s why some guys are successful with really cheesy lines, while other guys fail with fantastic banter lines. It’s never what you say; it’s always how you say it. And communication begins before you even open your mouth. So if you’re looking to seduce women or just get a date, stop worrying so much about finding the perfect words and start focusing on some of the other essentials.
Have you ever posted a lighthearted comment on the Internet that other people misinterpreted as being abrasive or mean-spirited? This is just one example of how words themselves are ineffective at communicating feelings. When you strip away all of the other elements of communication, words can be interpreted any number of ways.
Words make up only a very small part of communication. If you want to make a good impression, start by focusing on your body language, from the moment you enter a room. That’s the first thing she notices, so don’t take it for granted.
There are some great books available on the subject of using body language for effective communication, but start by just standing tall, being aware of your movements, making solid eye contact, smiling, and maintaining open posture (in other words, don’t cross your arms or legs, or bury your hands in your pocket).
Once you get into the habit of maintaining good language, the other important thing you must bear in mind is that social interactions are about engaging, not talking. Regardless of what you say, her defenses will automatically be up, so don’t worry about that. The important thing is to just begin the interaction, and allow her to feel comfortable as a result of your body language.
If she engages you in return, that’s a good sign. If she responds negatively or defensively, just remain positive, not only with your words, but with your demeanor. That’s the most effective way to overcome her objections.
