Fan Mail Friday #149 | Meta Electroshock Sex

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.

Let’s cut to it! In this episode:

  • How feasible is online dating for someone in the public eye?
  • How do you stay engaged in conversation without seeming like you are working really hard for it?
  • What do you do when you’re skilled at helping people overcome their social anxiety but not so skilled at helping yourself?
  • What’s someone with a high IQ got to do to keep everyday life challenging?
  • Is always wanting better clouding your dating judgment?
  • How does a man propose to another man?
  • Will the party really be ruined and the world come to an end if you invite the office’s most unpopular person? Or is it possible for your coworkers to act like adults?
  • Recommendation (and non-recommendation) of the week: The Wolves at the Door: The True Story of America’s Greatest Female Spy and Scam City
  • Quick shoutouts to Helen Elias and her fiancé Abe in Mexico, and Ruth from Sweden and her fiancé Shane!
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you’d like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!
  • Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @TheArtofCharm and Instagram at @jordanharbinger, and check out Jason’s (@jpdefother show: Grumpy Old Geeks. You can also find him on Instagram at JPD.


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Jordan Harbinger - author of 952 posts on The Art of Charm

Jordan Harbinger has spent several years abroad in Europe and the developing world, including South America, Eastern Europe, and the Middle East, and speaks several languages. He has also worked for various governments and NGOs overseas, traveled through war zones, and been kidnapped -- twice. He’ll tell you the only reason he’s still alive and kicking is because of his ability to talk his way into (and out of) just about any type of situation. Here at The Art of Charm, Jordan shares that experience, and the system borne as a result, with students and clients.


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