BONUS Episode: Jordan Harbinger on Colin Marshall’s “Notebook on Cities and Culture” (plus an NPR segment on Human Hacking!)

In this Bonus Episode, Jordan Harbinger appears on the very NPR-sounding “Colin Marshall’s Notebook on Cities and Culture,” and gets to discuss a bit of meta-AoC stuff and the life of a dating coach.

In Colin’s Words:

Colin Marshall sits down in Hollywood with lawyer turned social dynamics expert Jordan Harbinger, co-host of the Pickup Podcast and co-founder of confidence education program The Art of Charm.

They discuss how much time he spends explaining that he isn’t Tom Cruise from Magnolia;

-how he conceives of The Art of Charm’s mission to teach confidence, which involves teaching emotional intelligence;

-whether and how our generation of men have come out especially socially inept;

-the still-strong number of pickup artist types wandering around Hollywood, and the equally strong number of low-self-esteem women with whom they match;

-the importance of asking oneself the question “What can I learn from this person?”, an entirely different question from “What can I get from this person?”;

-The Art of Charm’s origin in someone else’s basement, and how that developed into coaching and teaching;

-the skills of networking through his short law career, and how he realized they also applied to, say, meeting women;

-the day he found himself ostensibly studying for a law exam while remotely coaching a man for his imminent move from Africa to Denmark;

-knowing how to use Los Angeles, a land of “towns packed together for tax purposes,” especially its areas of dense “city life” like Hollywood and Koreatown;

-everyone in Los Angeles’ essential nature as a foreigner, and how that opens up the question, “Where are you from?”;

-his dull childhood in Troy, Michigan which led to an adolescence of conning and wiretapping, and then into Germany as an exchange student;

-language and travel as the engines of good social-habit development, and the advantages of becoming foreign and shifting your linguistic context;

-how “networking” became a dirty word; specificity, the enemy of relationships; the importance of people as vectors;

…and the sentiment “it’s all who you know — and thank God for that!”


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AJ Harbinger - author of 1166 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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