How to Flirt Online

Do you have trouble flirting with girls out at the bars and clubs? A lot of guys do. But even more common is guys who have trouble flirting when they’re online. Especially as online dating is on the rise, learning how to flirt online with the best of them is a skill every man needs in the digital age. Here are some basic tips to help you level up your online game.

Make a Joke About Her Profile

One way that you can start out learning how to flirt online is making a playful joke about something in her profile. Why? Two reasons: First, you always want to start out your flirting by being light and playful. This is a good way for the two of you to start getting to know each other in a relaxed fashion.

Another reason you want to start out with a playful reference to something in her profile is to show her that you’ve read it and that you paid attention to it. What’s more, making a playful reference to something on her profile can let her know that the two of you have common interests — you have to know about something to make a funny reference to it.

Move on to Be Challenging

Just being funny and having things in common with her isn’t going to keep you out of the friend zone, however. You need something else. That something else that you need right away when you flirt online is being challenging. What do we mean by being challenging?

You’re still be light and flirtatious. But you’re also pushing back a bit. Flirting with her in ways that say “You have to impress me.” That you’re not going to go for just any pretty face. This communicates confidence while also creating sexual tension between the two of you. It also sets you apart — how many men do you think are consciously pushing back a little?

Move Things to Social Media

Thought you met on a dating site, it’s a good idea to move things over to a social networking site like Facebook as soon as you can. Why?

Because who a woman is on a dating site isn’t necessarily who she is in real life. You’re going to get a much more accurate picture of who she is on Facebook or Twitter than you are on a dating website. You can see if she has a lot of friends, if she has any of your red flags and lots of other things that you can’t tell from just a dating site.

Seal the Date

Once you know more about her, you might want to get her to go on a date with you. Rather than asking, tell her that you think the two of you should get together some time. Suggest a time and a place based on mutual interests.

If she’s not into the first idea, don’t worry: It might be that the time isn’t right for her, or that she likes you, but not the idea idea. For more tips on how to flirt online, check out The Art of Charm.

AJ Harbinger - author of 369 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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