Do you have self-esteem issues? You’re not alone. In fact, a lot of the guys that we talk to through The Art of Charm suffer from a poor self-image or a lack of self-esteem. However, we’re firm believers in the idea that the cure for this is a lot easier than it’s made out to be. In fact, if you get just a little taste of good self-esteem, it can be addictive. That’s just one of the things that men take away from our Boot Camps (some of the best self-esteem classes around): The ability to get just a small taste of what good self-esteem feels like, and the desire to go after more.
How to Improve Your Self-Esteem
“How do I improve my self-esteem?” That’s the question isn’t it? There are a lot of different ways to do this, some of which concentrate on your internal mindset, others focusing on your appearance and still others that involve getting outside of your comfort zone and getting some small degree of success. Let’s look at them all in turn.
Changing Your Mindset
Changing your mindset is perhaps one of the most powerful things you can do to start improving your self-esteem. However, they take some time to really take hold; They’re more habits than anything else. There are two things you can start doing right now:
- Act As If: Act like a person with high self-esteem. Other people will begin to view you this way, which will in turn make it easier to act like a high self-esteem person.
- Always Assume Attraction: No matter what you do, when you’re interacting with someone else, view their actions as a form of attraction. Why not? You have no idea what’s in their head. Why not assume something positive?
Again, these are long-term habits. You need to apply them consistently over time for them to really take hold.
Getting the Most Out Of Your Appearance
Your appearance can have a strong impact on your self-esteem almost immediately, this is one of the most basic lessons of any self-esteem classes you may take. If you don’t like what you see when you look in the mirror, that has a powerful negative impact on how you view yourself generally. Why not turn that around? There are two ways you can start doing this today:
- Hit the Gym: Of course you’re not going to get a gym rat body overnight. What you will get, though, is a sense of accomplishment. And, what’s more, you’ll also get endorphins and other chemicals that will improve your self-esteem.
- Get the Right Clothes: You don’t need to be a huge fashion plate to look well-dressed. It’s more about fit than anything. So head down to a store and pick up a pair of pants or jeans and a shirt that make you look good. Don’t be afraid to ask that cute sales girl for some help!
The last part leads into our final advice on getting self-esteem.
Get Out of Your Comfort Zone
Head out to a bar or club. Walk around, clinking glasses and getting high fives from people. In fact, set a goal for how many times you’ll do this in the course of a night. Then, when you see the right woman, approach her immediately, without thinking about it.
It sounds hard and it might be at first. But all meaningful change — especially changing negative self-esteem — is about getting out of your comfort zone.