What we teach at The Art of Charm is about more than meeting women — way more. We don’t just want to make you the slickest guy at the bar. We want to, in the words of our motto, turn ordinary guys into extraordinary men. From self confidence building to overall self improvement, we believe in transformation from the inside out.
It’s not just a string of buzzwords. We live by this, whether it’s the articles we write, the bootcamps we run, or our ebooks and mini courses. All of this is part of helping you to take things to the next level. To that end, we’re initiating a little challenge to our readers to radically improve their lives in just 1 month!
OK so here is the Challenge: We want you to go 30 days without women. Well what does that mean? It means no sex, no dating, no energy or time spent chasing, sleeping with or courting women.
Hear us out…
As a man, one of the most important things you can do is to build yourself up. It takes real effort and energy to become the man that you know you can be. One of the biggest distractions on the road to your most awesome self? Women. It’s not that they’re bad. Clearly not. The issue is that if you’re spending all your time and energy trying to figure out how to please women, you’ve got your eyes off of the prize. Yourself!
The prize is the new, better, stronger, smarter, tougher, more driven and focused you. In order to get there you need to tap into the awesome male energy you have inside you; the energy that got man through the Ice Age, the Great Depression and pretty much any serious life challenge man has ever faced.
Your challenges are child’s play compared to that. And yet, they’re yours: They’re areas that you struggle with. Places where you want to overcome, become better than you are, to take your life to the next level.
Think about it: Boot camp is one of the most transformative experiences a man can have. This is, in part, because it’s just men — no women. Guys often say similar things about non-martial experiences sans women, like logging camps or oil rigs: They’ll make a man out of you, for sure. But you don’t have to join the military or run away to the hinterlands of hard labor to get the same kind of experience.
We want you to join us on this 30 day journey. Yet we understand why you might be skeptical. It’s certainly not a road that’s for everyone. But if you’ve ever thought about taking a little break from women, going your own way for a while, turning inward and working on the self, we urge you to join us. After all, it’s always easy to accomplish things when you’re in a crowd of strong men pushing you forward and helping you up every time you fall. You won’t find a more powerful confidence-building exercise.
No Women Means More Time and Energy for Work
A lot of your journey is going to revolve around work. It’s just the nature of the beast. However, when it comes to work, you have two ways to look at it: First, you could view it as total waste of your time that you suffer through; Or you could view it as just one part of a super fulfilling life.
We want you to view it as the latter. And spending some time away from dating gives you the opportunity to do that. All of the energy that you’ve been spending on women you can now throw into:
- Becoming a superstar at your current job.
- Finding a job that will fulfill you in a way that your current one never will.
- Getting your “side gig” or “start-up” set up… at last.
The point is using this 30 days to move from a place where work is “dead time” into a place where it’s vital time. It’s not just about making money, it’s about fulfilling yourself here. After all, if you’re going to spend 40-60 hours or more a week doing something, it needs to be something that really moves you.
No Women Means More Time and Energy for Self Improvement
Self improvement is really the name of the game. That’s what this is all about. And it can take the form of reading books, meditating, hitting the gym or learning a new skill. What personal improvement means is what it means to you; What it means to you is necessarily different from what it means to everyone else.
In 30 days you can get a lot done. But perhaps most importantly, what you can get done is drill down on precisely what personal improvement means for you. How are you going to define personal improvement? What are your goals and values? What is most important to you? How are you going to prioritize personal improvement when the month is over?
These are all things that are a lot easier to think about when you don’t have women on the brain. For example, you could spend 30 days:
- Showing up an hour early and staying an hour late at work.
- Hitting the weights for at least one hour every day.
- Harnessing your sexual energy by doing a 30-day #NoFap challenge.
- Waking up extra early in the morning to spend an hour every day working on your novel / screenplay / side business.
- Writing a letter to a good friend every night before hitting the hay.
No Women Means More Time and Energy for Hobbies
A man needs a hobby. As fulfilling as work and personal improvement might be, there has to be more to life. Hobbies nourish our soul in a way that more aggressive pursuits just can’t. Maybe you love music and want to try your hand as a DJ. Maybe you want to get back into playing chess. Maybe it’s a stamp collection — the point here is that it doesn’t really matter what it is.
This is a time for you to spend getting comfortable with yourself, pushing yourself, but also indulging yourself. To that end, you need to take time for the things you do just because.
Just because you have to.
Just because nothing else feels better.
Just because it’s always pulling you back.
Don’t schedule it. Don’t plan for it. Just remember the things you used to do for fun that you’re now neglecting and turn your attention back to them. Without a dating and romantic life, you’re going to have a extra time to fill.
Not only is it a great way to spend a month; It also helps you to shape your own self and to maintain that individuality once you start dating again. Not only will that make you more attractive to the right kind of woman, it will also make future relationships stronger. Other benefits of 30 days without women include:
- Attached men invariably miss their single days. Spending 30 days on yourself allows you to accomplish things you’ll wish you had the time for when you have a girlfriend.
- The National Sleep Foundation (yes, that’s a real thing) found that single men sleep better than guys in relationships.
- You’ll have a lot more money to spend on yourself, invest in your side gig or just save for your retirement.
- There are significant health benefits to being single, including trimmer waistlines, more exercise and less stress.
- No one has done an “across the board” study yet, but single scientists are more productive than attached ones.
No Women Means More Time and Energy to Give Back
Be the change. It’s a cliche, but there are worse ones. There’s so much to be done in the world, be it reading to the elderly, volunteering with your church or feeding the homeless. Everyone defines what needs to be done in the world in their own way. What you need to do now is go out and act on it.
You’ve talked about setting apart some of your time to give back and help out. Guess what? Your Friday night is free. Take some of that time and give back.
No Women Means Takes the Focus Off of Women and Puts It on You
There’s a whole movement of men these days who are all about putting the focus on themselves above all else. You can see it in things like NoFap or the Men Going Their Own Way movement. While these certainly have their benefits and are right for some people, you don’t need anything quite so radical as any of that.
In fact, we don’t want you following a path someone else has cut out for you. We want you to spend 30 days drawing inward, finding your own path. You’re going to go an entire month without dating, without hitting on women and maybe even without looking at porn or masturbating if that seems right for you. The point isn’t to bash porn, but if you feel like you’ve got an issue there, why not take the time out to deal with it? You’re going to take all of that energy and throw it into yourself.
We all have things that we would do if only we had the time and energy to make them happen. Forget about women for a minute: This is about taking 30 days and spending them doing all of those things you never get around to doing. It’s about taking your life to the next level for you and for no other reason than because it’s a good use of your time.
A good deed is its own reward; A strong deed is a strong reward.
We want to hear how you’re doing it. Because every man is going to do it just a little bit different from the next.
No Women Means Spending 30 Days Building a Better Man
Now let’s get to one of the coolest payoffs here: 30 days of no women means 30 days building yourself up. And you know who’s going to love that? Other than you, I mean.
Don’t do it for women. Just know that at the end of 30 days when you’re a superstar at work building a side business, volunteering at the local soup kitchen, reading a book a week and ready to drop your first mixtape, women are going to say to themselves “this is a guy who is doing things.”
The 30 days should be all about you. But making them all about you is going to give you a masculine strength, self confidence, presence and magnetism that women are going to instantly recognize. So when the 30 days is up and you head out to the bar or club, you’re going to be a new man.
A man who is far more attractive to women on a deep, deep level. Promise.
Who’s Coming With Us?
Who wants to try it? Spending 30 days without dating, without women. Focusing entirely on building confidence and building themselves into a better man because it’s a great way to spend 30 days? Let us know in the comments section or email us. Coming soon, we’re going to have a concrete plan of action that shows you how you can start planning your 30 days without women. But for now, tell us if you plan to do 30 Days Without Women, what you plan to spend your time doing and what you hope to get out of it.
This is a journey that The Art of Charm is going to be there to support you. Look out for upcoming resources on only how to actually survive 30 days without women but to thrive and help change yourself in the process.