Online Dating Tips for Guys

A lot of guys have asked themselves if it’s time to try online dating. We get that a lot at The Art of Charm. Guys asking us if that’s a good option for them. The question doesn’t have a one-size-fits-all answer. You have to consider a number of factors. So read on to find out of it’s time to try out these online dating tips for guys.

Are You Meeting More Women Than You Know What to Do With?

This is the question that you really need to ask yourself when you’re asking if it’s time to dip your toe in the online dating pool. If the answer to this question is no, then you should definitely think about online dating as an option. There are a number of reasons why online dating can be useful, not as a replacement for, but a supplement to whatever it is that you’re doing already. Indeed, in the 21st Century, not using online dating can be a bit like cutting off your arm.

Online Dating Is for Busy Men

Are you busy? Do you spend a lot of time at work and engaging in personal pursuits? If so, online dating can be a great option for you. This is because it allows you to go looking for women when (and to a greater extent, where) you want. Got 15 minutes on the bus to work? Hop on your favorite dating app and see if you can’t find any women to go on a date with this weekend. Even five minutes on a dating app can be very valuable, as opposed to going out for the night, which takes hours and you might legitimately not have time for.

Online Dating Is for Selective Men

What about selective men? We urge all men to be selective, but for the highly selective man, online dating is a no-brainer. It allows you to massively expand your pool of available women while also allowing you to pre-screen with greater ease.

Think about it: You’ve got a place where there are literally millions of women posting what they like, what they’re looking for in a man, what their personality traits are and, don’t forget, pictures of themselves. This lets you sort through what’s available — and what’s up your alley — with greater ease than ever before.

Now all that’s left is setting up a profile with these online dating tips for guys.

Tips for Setting Up Your Profile

Setting up a profile shouldn’t be intimidating. You just need to pay attention to some very basic things. Here’s the lowdown:

  • Pictures: Three to five is what we’re shooting for here. Shirtless selfies and pictures of you with kids are to be avoided, but shirtless pictures of you in context (say, at the beach) are fine. Pictures of you hanging out having a blast are the best kind.
  • Interests: Put the things that you’re most passionate about. It’s going to attract people who are just as passionate about you as the same thing.
  • Do Not Wants: Your profile shouldn’t be a long list of deal breakers. Nor should you be afraid to throw a few things in there that are big deal breakers for you. For example, if you wouldn’t date a smoker, don’t be afraid to say it. It filters women that you’re not going to date anyway out and also shows that you’re a selective, high-value man.
  • Wants: You also don’t want your profile to read like a shopping list. However, with that said, don’t be afraid to list a few personality (not physical) traits that you love in a woman. It helps to attract the right kind of woman.

AJ Harbinger - author of 1161 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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