How are you doing with flirting over text? Are you keeping conversations going? Most importantly, are you getting dates? A lot of guys have trouble making the transition from texting a girl to getting her to agree to go on a date. One way that you can increase your batting average here is by being more creative with your flirting tips for texting. There’s a method to being creative with flirting that we like to teach at The Art of Charm. Here’s a quick rundown of our creative flirting tips for texting.
You want to start out your texting by being funny. Being flirtatious, making jokes and keeping things light is the way to go. The reason being, it’s the best way to take what’s inherently an edgy situation — texting someone you don’t know that well — and making it more relaxing and easygoing. A lot of men make the mistake of getting too serious too quickly. Being funny from the get go is the best way to avoid this.
Still, just being funny isn’t going to get you the date. You also want to be challenging and push back a bit. You can (and should) do this in a flirtatious way that keeps things light. However, the point here isn’t to be “entertaining.” Rather, what you’re going for is — playfully — letting her know that she has to win you over, that you’re not just going to go for any woman. That you’re only looking for the right woman. Showing her that you have standards is a great way to increase your value, while also creating sexual tension between the two of you… and while we’re on that subject.
You want to be sexual when you’re flirting with women. This is because if you’re not making your sexual intentions clear, you can end up in the friend zone. Too often, guys who end up in the friend zone haven’t made their intentions clear; Rather, they’ve just been funny and flirtatious without being overtly sexual. You want to be respectful at all times and respect boundaries. However, you also want to — playfully — flirt in a sexual manner with her.
Use Your Emoticons
A lot of guys don’t like using emoticons when they text. When you’re flirting with girls, however, it’s of the utmost importance for you to do so. When you go out to a bar or club for the night to meet women you want to smile to show that you’re approachable and to communicate friendliness. Unfortunately, one of the limitations of texting is that you don’t have tone of voice, facial expressions or other body language cues to help communicate. Emoticons, especially Emojis, can go a long way toward replacing a lot of what is getting lost, helping you to flirt more effectively.
Go For the Date
Of course, the point here is to get her to agree to go on a date with you. So once you two have been flirting a bit, wait for a high point in the conversation to suggest that the two of you get together some time. Have a date idea in mind based on mutual interests.
Don’t worry if she doesn’t bite on your first idea. Instead, suggest something else. She might be into going out with you, just not into the date. Alternately, she might be into the date, but unavailable at the time you suggested.
For more flirting tips for texting and otherwise, check out our Art of Dating section at The Art of Charm.