When It Comes to Romance Seeing Is Believing — Treating Your Girlfriend

When it comes to romance, you need to walk the walk, not just talk the talk. It’s good to treat your girlfriend. Little things will let her know just how special she is to you. It’s important that she know that. It’s one of the most important things in the world to women. To do that you need to treat her — seeing is believing, after all. But fear not, men of limited means. This has far less to do with how much you spend on her than how you spend your time, attention and (sometimes) money on her.

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Seeing is Believing

Your mother was right: It’s the thought that counts. This means that it’s not about spending money on her — though that can help. It’s about showing her that you care about her and more importantly, romancing her by showing her that you care about your relationship. This can be done by buying her the perfect gift, scrapping all your other plans to spend time with her or investing in your relationship by taking her on an adventure.

Adventure is a key component of keeping a relationship strong. It makes relationships more strong and nurtures them. If you’ve been with a girl for a while and things are starting to feel stale, doing adventurous things together can be one of the best ways to get things back on track.

It’s the Thought That Counts

The natural corollary of “it’s the thought that counts” is that when it comes to treating your girlfriend, the longer that you spend time thinking about how to treat her, the better job you’re going to do at it when all is said and done. Take some time to think about how you’re going to romance her. It’s a lot more important than the money that you put into whatever it is that you end up treating your girlfriend with.

Take Her On Dates

One thing that can happen when the two of you have been together for a long time is that things can get a little samey. You can show your romantic side by taking her out on dates. Another great way to make her feel like you’re treating her is to, like we said above, take her out on little adventures. That can be as simple as something like a camping trip, a staycation or a flight to somewhere the two of you have never been before. Whatever it ultimately is, it’s going to bring the two of you closer and make her feel appreciated.

The Perfect Gift

The perfect gift might be a diamond ring, but it’s probably not. More likely it’s something that she mentions in passing. Remember, anyone can throw money at a problem. When seeing is believing, you can make her feel totally romanced by getting her that small little thing that she mentioned weeks ago that seemed like no big deal. This shows her that you really know her and really get who she is. That’s something that no amount of money can buy.

This can include doing things for her. Remember, sometimes the perfect way to be romantic isn’t through a physical gift, it’s through a gesture like a backrub or doing her dishes for you.

AJ Harbinger - author of 1167 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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