How To Charm A Woman Who’s Older Than You

Knowing how to charm a woman means you’ve got to know and play towards your strengths.

When it comes to older women, guys think they’re at a disadvantage.  Women tend to like older guys, so the idea of going for an older woman can seem daunting – if not futile.

But being a younger guy means you’ve got a bunch of things going for you that you may not realize.  Once you know the benefits that go along with being younger than her, you’ll be able to take advantage of them.

Knowing how to charm a woman who’s older than you begins with keeping the following points in mind:

Benefits of being younger

The initial phase in how to charm a woman is always the same.  Without getting too much into detail, the first step in building attraction is to get her interested and curious about you by being fun and playful.

Johnny, one of the co-founders and lead instructors at AoC, talks about how you want to have the mentality of a little kid when first meeting a woman.  Just look to shake things up, have a good time, and don’t take anything too seriously (i.e. banter).

Being younger, you’re already going to be more in touch with this fun, playful side than most of the other guys she meets.  There’s a sort of vibrant energy that comes with youth which many people lose over the years.  As people age, they tend to become more jaded.

No matter what your age then, you are likely more connected with that “boyish charm” than the older guys that try to flirt with her.  You automatically have a higher energy level than the guys she’s used to.  Be sure to emphasize this (keep up a fun, positive attitude) as it will be a refreshing change of pace for her.

How to avoid being too playful

One of the reasons women prefer older guys is that as people age, we get a better idea of who we are and what we want.  Not only is that attractive for women, but older women are especially interested in that kind of guy because they’re in the same boat.  Older women know what they want and are not looking to play games.

So while that youthful energy can be refreshing, you’ve got to combine it with a strong sense of confidence and purpose.  Just by being younger she probably thinks you don’t really know what you want or what you’re doing.  You need to show her right away that you’re not playing games and are a serious sexual option for her.  That kind of self-confidence can be even more attractive when coming from such a young guy.

One of the best ways to show this is through eye contact.  Strong, steady eye contact is the easiest and most effective way to show confidence and that you know what you’re doing.  You can ramp up the intensity and sexual tension by entertaining thoughts of the two of you getting physical while maintaining eye contact.  This will help you project a sexual vibe and she’ll know to take you seriously.

Fulfill her fantasy

Older women embrace the thought of being “a cougar”.  Getting that kind of attention from a younger guy is an empowering feeling that can make a woman feel sexy.  Just by approaching with the intention of charming her you’re giving her ego a nice little boost and making her feel good.

Not only that, but it’s very likely that at some point she’s fantasized about being with a younger guy.   Part of her will be curious to see if you can be that guy who fulfills this sexual fantasy for her.

This just scratches the surface of some of the mindsets and techniques a guy can use in order to attract women.  For much more detail on what you can do to build attraction with the women you meet, check out the AoC Online Academy.  It’s got hours of videos as well as tips and exercises that will show you everything you need in order to get and keep the girl.

For guys who want to take their dating life to the next level now, AoC offers week-long bootcamps in NY or LA.  To see if this program is right for you, call toll free 1-888-413-7177 for your free consultation.

Brian M - author of 192 posts on The Art of Charm

Once he realized attraction was something he could learn, Brian spent way too much of his free time studying and practicing everything he could find on the subject. He stumbled across The Art of Charm podcast and eventually signed up for an AoC bootcamp. Excited by the progress he's made in his own life since the program, he decided to start writing for AoC to help other guys do the same. By writing about interpersonal dynamics, he’s finally able to put that psychology degree to good use.

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