How To Start Sexting A Girl – What Every Guy Must Know

Start Sexting a GirlIt’s always good to know just how to start sexting a girl before you actually jump into it.  Guys who know how to do it right are able to get girls excited and really have a good time.  But if a guy doesn’t know what he’s doing he could not only embarrass himself – he could ruin the relationship.

If a guy doesn’t know how to start sexting a girl he’ll do one of two things:  Either A) He’ll never try it or B) He’ll blindly dive into it only to discover he can’t get the girl engaged.  Even worse – the girl may become weirded out or actively offended by the things he said.

Now diving straight into it can work (if it fits with your personality and what she knows of you) but it’s not the most consistent way to get a positive response.  If you want to know how to start sexting a girl in a way that will get her engaged and excited, there’s a better alternative.

How to Start Sexting: Setting the Tone

Throwing out sexual acts and ideas out of the blue doesn’t work because they can catch a woman off guard.  So rather than looking to just start sexting, look to set a sexual tone to the conversation that will allow sexting to occur naturally.

A great way to steer the conversation in a sexual way without being too blunt is through misinterpretation.  Basically you want to take whatever she said to you and turn it sexual.  Take the position that she is trying to seduce you and that she’s the one being sexually suggestive.

Doing this brings the idea of sex into the interaction while keeping it fun and playful.  Once sex is part of the interaction, it’s just a matter of building off it ramping up the intensity.

After sexual tension is established, you hit the point where you can just dive into it.  Remember as the guy it’s your job to escalate and lead the interaction.  Don’t wait or expect her to take things to the next level, you’ve just got to go for it.  Tell her how crazy she’s making you, and describe exactly what you want to do with/to her.

What if She Doesn’t Play Along?

If you set the tone– and she’s in the right mood for it – then you’ll be able to take off from here.  But there will be occasions when you jumped the gun and the girl wasn’t quite as ready to go as you thought.  She might feel offended or annoyed at the things you suggested.  If this happens, don’t worry.  Recovering from a miscalculation like this is easy.

If she doesn’t like the direction you took things in, simply apologize and move on.  You want to acknowledge her feelings but don’t get too wrapped up in them.  If you start to freak out and act like it was a big deal, then it validates the thought that it was a big deal.  If you brush it off like it was just a little mistake and not worth stressing over, then she’ll be more likely to see it that way too.

So if she gets upset, respond with a simple “I’m sorry, you just turn me on is all.”  From there you can just change the subject and move on.

Brian M - author of 194 posts on The Art of Charm

Once he realized attracting women was something he could learn Brian spent way too much of his free time studying and practicing everything he could find on the subject. He stumbled across The Art of Charm Podcast and eventually signed up for an AoC bootcamp. Excited by the progress he’s made in his own life since the program he decided to start writing for AoC to help other guys do the same. By writing about interpersonal dynamics he’s finally able to put that psychology degree to good use.


One thought on “How To Start Sexting A Girl – What Every Guy Must Know

  1. Mikael says:

    I don’t agree with the whole appologizing thing. Just ignore and go back to normal playful teasing. Be unapologetic. Mindset “I think you’re sexy. That’s it, care what you want about that. Still the truth”. But don’t push it. Never had a woman get upset when I go sexual over text, and if you ease into it she will be up for it. She can tell it’s building up to it. But if I’d get a “That’s to much dude” or something I’d simply text back “Well, you’re a sexy cookie in my eyes. (and then write something playful or sincere)”.

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